As the year draws to a close, there is often an unspoken expectation that we should feel thankful, reflective, and at peace. Social media fills with highlight reels, gratitude lists, and messages about “ending the year on a positive note.”
But for many people, this time of year doesn’t feel light.
It feels heavy.
If you are not feeling grateful right now, nothing is wrong with you.
Mixed Emotions Are Normal, Especially Right Now
December has a way of amplifying everything.
Fatigue from a long year. Grief that hasn’t had space to surface. Loneliness that feels louder when others seem connected. Even relief that the year is almost over can sit alongside sadness or numbness.
You might notice:
Feeling emotionally flat or disconnected
Irritability or overwhelm
Guilt for not feeling “happy enough”
A desire to withdraw or be quiet
These are not signs of failure. They are common nervous system responses to a season that asks a lot while offering very little rest.
Gratitude Is Not a Requirement for Healing
Gratitude can be meaningful, but it cannot be forced. When we pressure ourselves to “find the silver lining” before we are ready, it can create more distress rather than relief.
Sometimes the most honest response is simply:
“This has been hard.”
Acknowledging difficulty is not negativity. It is clarity. And clarity is often the first step toward healing.
What You Are Allowed to Feel
Right now, you are allowed to feel:
Tired without explaining why
Sad even if “nothing is wrong”
Disconnected from the holiday spirit
Uncertain about the future
Relieved that the year is ending
You do not owe anyone cheerfulness. You do not need to earn rest by being grateful first.
A Gentle Practice for Today
If it feels supportive, try this simple grounding exercise:
Place one hand on your chest and one on your abdomen.
Take three slow breaths, noticing the rise and fall of your body.
Then silently complete this sentence:
“Right now, it makes sense that I feel ______.”
There is no correct answer. Whatever comes up is valid.
Moving Forward, Gently
As we approach the end of the year, consider letting go of the idea that you need closure, insight, or a positive reframe. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is simply arrive as you are.
Gratitude may come later. Or it may not.
Either way, you are still worthy of care, support, and compassion.
If this season feels heavy, you do not have to carry it alone.
