As the school year comes around the corner, many families are flooded with the idea of purchasing new school supplies, fixing sleep schedules and getting back into their routines. For children, teens and even some parents, the idea of this introduces something invisible, anxiety.
What is Back to School Anxiety?
Back to school anxiety can be described as anticipatory anxiety – worry or fear about an upcoming event.
- Trouble sleeping or eating
- Stomach aches (described as butterflies)
- Headaches – with no medical reasoning
- Emotional outbursts
- Continuous “what if’s”
Why Does it Happen?
Experiencing a transition, even if it is a positive one, can be overwhelming and can induce anxious feelings.
- New teachers and classmates
- Academic demands
- Pressure from society
- Fear of being judged by others
- Past negative experiences (bullying)
How to Support Your Child with Back-to-School Anxiety – As a Parent
- Validate their Feelings
Let your child know that it is okay to feel nervous, avoid dismissing their feelings by saying something like “It will be fine”. Try your best to understand them and put yourself in their shoes.
Validation builds trust and allows for communication.
- Practice School Routines in Advance
Practice adjusting bed times and wake up times and review school maps or schedules.
Familiarizing reduces fear.
- Model Calm and Confident
Kids begin to understand and feel emotions through the adults around them. if your anxious, they will pick it up. Practice your own coping strategies – deep breathing, mindfulness and even journaling.
When to Seek Emotional Support
While anxiety is completely normal, there may be certain times where seeking support is OKAY!
- Refuses to attend school for multiple days
- Has panic attacks or severe meltdowns
- Experiences social fear – affecting day-to-day lives
Final Thought!
Back-to-school anxiety is common, but it never defines your child’s experience. With help, support and a little bit of cheering them on – they will adjust and thrive!
